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How to Get Along with Anyone

By the Conflict Docs,
John Eliot & Jim Guinn

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About the Book

Defuse any heated conflict by learning which of the five conflict styles you are and how to resolve even the most sensitive dispute with this must-read guide.

The average American worker spends 156 hours a year engaged in the kind of moderate to intense workplace conflict that adversely impacts both performance and health. Managers spend twenty-six percent of their time addressing and resolving conflicts on their team—the equivalent of chewing up one full workday each week. But what if it didn’t need to be like this? What if there was a way to spend less time in stressfully interpersonal interactions and more time on the things that really matter? Through three decades of building and facilitating team chemistry for Fortune 500 companies, professional sports franchises, schools, government agencies, nonprofit organizations, and families—Drs. Jim Guinn and John Eliot have reduced the time and cost of conflict resolution. With this on-the-ground experience combined with industry-leading science and research, Guinn and Eliot discovered people respond to conflict in one of five ways: avoid, compete, analyze, collaborate, or accommodate.

Because our responses are ingrained byproducts of the subcortex in action, they are predictable. If you can predict how someone will behave in a given circumstance, you can formulate a game plan. The secret is knowing which of the five patterns someone is wired to use when smacked by a stressor. How to Get Along with Anyone is a pragmatic hands-on book to help you determine conflict types so you can navigate the arguments that emerge in day-to-day life. You’ll learn the formula for identifying your coworkers’ and loved ones’ conflict styles and how to use this information to foster better communication and more effective, collaboration.

Filled with fun, engaging examples and actionable techniques, How to Get Along with Anyone teaches you how to predict and prevent escalated conflict, arming you with practical tools for flipping the script on sticking points to nurture stronger and more meaningful relationships.

Meet the Conflict Docs

Successful teams are led by people who communicate well under pressure. How to Get Along with Anyone draws up the plays for you to do just that."

- H. Irving Grousbeck, MBA, Reigning NBA Champion Boston Celtics’ Owner; Stanford Business School Professor of Organizational Behavior

Drawing on decades of experience, 'conflict docs' Eliot and Guinn provide insights and tools for conflict management among five distinct conflict-personality types...Each conflict personality type has a chapter providing in-depth exploration of various factors, allowing for greater understanding and potential for successful application in real life."

- BOOKLIST

This $#!& actually works!!”

- Barbay Darrell, High School Football Coach & Athletic Director

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